want more AND have both

by rebecca on October 31, 2012

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For years I vacillated between either and or. I ate Oreos until my sweet tooth fell out then I tossed a bunch of fruit and veggies in the blender and pressed liquify until everything in life was smooth. That’s about the time I realized a cookie would taste delightful. This teeter-totter lifestyle was crazy-making.

Either/ Or leaves me tangled, flattened or otherwise discombobulated.

Soulful cleansing is not about putting on a hairshirt, getting out a whip and beating myself into obedience. It is about finding both. Striving and Grace. Authority and Harmony. Rest and Productivity.

I’ll Have Both.

I want to wake up to a clean kitchen every day, and I want to go to bed when I’m tired.

I want to send lovely thank you cards on luscious paper, and I want my presence in each moment to be enough.

I want to do laundry a little bit every day, and I want to have a day dedicated to laundry where I can devote myself to a single focus.

I want a simple, sleek bathroom drawer, and I want to welcome every lip balm, barrette and essential oil that parades itself my way.

I want to stock up on sale items, and I want to welcome an empty shelf in my pantry.

I want to be busy and I want rest.

I want to notice those pockets in life where my service is of value so I can offer freely, and I want to accept the help of others with grace.

I want to drench myself in simple pleasures, populating my home with fresh flowers and aromatic soaps, and I want to be content with the world precisely as it exists in this moment, noticing the wonder of the sun on a bird’s wing when it calls its friends to ignite the sky with flight.

I want long, lingering walks where conversation is the reason to be outside, and I want sweat that drips and muscles that let me know I used them.

I want to be eager to learn more and I want to be satisfied that this is enough for now.



I want Oreos and green smoothies.

“I like both,”  says Sheryl in a video (I couldn’t load for you) that cracked me up because I’d never heard of Tim Tam cookies. Here, in another video, she is showing off her non-edible Oreos.

It has been fun to share my 4-step philosophy in Soulful Cleansing. Identify – Notice – Address – Tend.  Today is the last day of my  31-days of Soulful Cleansing, but it is the beginning of many other ideas for conversations. I don’t want you to miss out as we continue to talk about clutter, cleansing and bringing our best soul to each new day.

I want to thank The Nester. Join her here and see all the other 31-day projects. Please

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suzicate November 1, 2012 at 2:50 pm

It’s great when we find ways to have all of what we want…usually just takes some balance!


rebecca November 1, 2012 at 3:18 pm

I agree, SuziCate. I can’t have both at the same moment, but I can have both in the big picture of my life. It requires not holding on quite so tightly.


Kristen @ Motherese November 1, 2012 at 6:06 pm

Oh, I love this.

I think you of all people know how deeply this embracing of the Both resonates with me. I am nothing if not an Oreos and fruit smoothie kind of girl.

Thanks for helping me realize that that is a great thing to be. xo


rebecca November 5, 2012 at 7:29 pm

Yes! But it takes patience, doesn’t it? To allow ourselves time to let everything in.

Thanks right back at you!


Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri November 5, 2012 at 6:35 pm

I love this. So much of me is wound up in contradictions that it feels good to acknowledge out loud that it is ok to embrace both…

Thank you.


rebecca November 5, 2012 at 7:26 pm

Isn’t it the truth? I’ve found in my month of Soulful Cleansing that I was going back and forth between pacing myself and surging forward. I just decided to admit I want it all. Now the deal is knowing I won’t have it all at every moment.


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