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confessions from a parent who throws things

November 16, 2015
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“There’s jelly on my toast!” screams my neighbor’s daughter. “I thought you liked jelly,” says dad, and it’s true, she did like jelly, with a particular preference for raspberry. “I hate jelly!” the toast is now airborne. “I forgot to tell him to put peanut butter on the toast,” says my friend to her daughter […]

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we give what we want to receive

November 1, 2015
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We give what we want to receive. This gets us in trouble only when our expectations get in the way which is usually always. Because we want to receive what we give. In all likelihood, you, like me, have attracted people into your life who give you very different things than you offer. You attracted […]

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opposites attract in the kitchen

October 18, 2015
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My husband learned to cook because I begged him. “Feed me,” I said a kagillion times. Wow! Was it worth the wait! The waiting was a hungry time, but the eating was far more nourishing than food. My husband does nothing by halves. He studied cooking as if he were pursuing another graduate degree. He […]

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dancing tubas and celebrating my father’s birth

October 4, 2015
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Football season makes me interested in tubas. I went to my first ever Colorado Buffalos game last Saturday. The first thing I noticed was how the tubas danced in unison as they played the fight song when the Buffs scored a quick touchdown. I’m a side-dish girl when it comes to life. The main event […]

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how being president changed me

September 28, 2015
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I just finished a 3-year term as president. When I accepted a volunteer position to lead the community center of our tiny 1-stop sign town, I thought I would be helping to plan the Halloween party. Mostly, I learned about the variety of pots of money when it comes to government, and why all of […]

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allowing happiness in

September 14, 2015
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My husband is not a “you should” sort of person. I live with no finger pointing, though I point plenty, “You should have taken out the trash… paid more attention…hugged me sooner.” Because my husband doesn’t have this voice does not mean I don’t hear it from him. I am capable of mapping my own […]

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the vacation of kids coming home

September 6, 2015
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My children are my true companions. I can say this now. It wasn’t always true. There was a time I envied hours of simply running to the grocery store without them, because they were cling-ons, not companions. I tried to carve out our happiness, however. There were many trips to many stores through many years, […]

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the rollercoaster of happiness is sometimes boring

June 28, 2015
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Sometimes happiness is thrilling like a ride on a rollercoaster. Sometimes happiness is serene like floating on a mountain lake. But my rollercoaster is also terrifying and my lake can be boring, so I’m glad to be able to shake it up. I live in a place where I wake to the sound of birds […]

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you are not invisible, i see you

June 22, 2015
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I know how it is when you’re doing more than you feel capable of: stretched beyond your capacity. Just after my son was born, my stepfather landed in the hospital and it didn’t look good. I moved my 3 year old daughter, my new born baby, and my graduate-student-husband in with my mother because she […]

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dropped money, kale salad for hundreds, and a mother’s happiness

May 31, 2015
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Cleaning up what I thought was trash on our lawn, my husband found a check for $182. “I think that check fell out of my purse as I was headed to the bank,” I told him. The last time my life was this full of stress I lost the title to our car. That was […]

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motherhood: shoe battles and dirt digging triumphs

May 11, 2015
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The first 6 weeks of motherhood I found I could do little but stare at my baby. I had labored for 2 ½ days, desperately falling asleep between contractions at the end. I remember the brightness of the noonday sun on my forehead and thinking, when did it become so boldly day? That’s when my […]

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