intimacy

leadership from the back of the room

February 8, 2017
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I am a planner. My husband is not. This is the magic upon which our marriage is made. It is also a recipe for years decades of frustration, tears, and fights. Marriage is made of tiny moments. I am a list maker. In the bathroom drawer live dozens of lists on heavy card stock so […]

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deep and quiet is a long love

January 17, 2017
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“I spent an hour and a half cleaning out the fireplace,” I say to my husband of 29 years so he would know that I cared about our anniversary dinner. I want his memories of me to be slathered with the scent of my perfume and the smoke of the many fires we’ve sat around. […]

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counting down to connect at christmas time

December 1, 2011
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I smelled my mother 3 years after she died while I was standing in the grocery store. Heaven’s Scent walked right past me while I was deciding between Cheerios and Kix. I abandoned the cereal and stalked followed that aroma for 3 aisles, inhaling all the while. I pretended to look at ketchup and coffee. When […]

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stop hugging last

February 2, 2011
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This Valentine’s Day, instead of giving a box of chocolates, try simply staying for the duration of an entire hug. My husband is that one in a million man who hugs and kisses hello and goodbye every time he leaves the house or returns.  Every time.  Even if it is merely to go on a […]

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