letting go

why asking for help makes you stronger

October 18, 2012
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Many people who suffer with clutter come to me for coaching thinking I’ll have the magic system that will make all their troubles disappear. This is not how it works. No system of mine will work for you. This is good. The reason half of my soulful cleansing philosophy revolves around the stillness of observation […]

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become a detective of your patterns

October 17, 2012
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What gets in the way of finishing what I start? This is the question I ask so I can notice with precision. When I become a detective of my patterns I can learn from myself and create a supportive scaffolding: one upon which I can stand and reach for my sky. I recently identified the […]

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how to get a cleaner home with plenty of lip balm

October 16, 2012
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Today I tucked lip balm in multiple places so I could have a cleaner home. I feel so empty when I can’t find it. I’m dry and distracted. I can’t concentrate. It’s just lip balm, after all. I can afford plenty. Why do I buy so little and have it only in one spot? I […]

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lower your expectations and get more done

October 16, 2012
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It was tempting for me to blame my house for why I couldn’t get any traction in life. The counters were a disaster. I had half-finished projects everywhere I looked. In every corner there were big reminders “You don’t finish what you start.” But my house was merely a reflection of me. It wasn’t the […]

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how cleaning my cupboard connects the dots of my grief

October 14, 2012
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I miss my mother. Wearing a dress I designed and my mother sewed,  we sat together on the piano bench and sang hymns while I waited for my prom date to arrive. I was 17 years old and my hair was looking mighty fine. We harmonized Amazing Grace and it settled my nerves while I […]

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the hello in death’s goodbye

February 6, 2012
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I traced the metal rivets in the leather chair in which I sat. They were as evenly spaced as the hanging bags and monitors that were keeping my step-father comfortable as he journeyed toward death. The cold of the linoleum floor in the ICU crept through my socks each time I stood to apply chapstick […]

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feeling my way to freedom

January 23, 2012
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Welcome guest blogger Stacia from MyFluffyBunnies! One Sunday last August, I crashed a Vespa on vacation in Florence. My tibia cracked just below the knee, right there on the dusty Tuscan roadside. After four days in the hospital, I had surgery. Four days after that, my husband and I finally flew home to Romania. Home. […]

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complimentary colors and emancipation

March 29, 2011
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We arrived at the campus together. She was to take a class at 9:45 as a way to introduce her to college life. Half an hour to kill. I think she’d rather have sat still, but feet walking rather than nerves churning seemed a wiser occupation. We found some lovely trees and she humored me […]

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