love

can love contain you? or your silverware?

October 2, 2012
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I’m the organizer in our home. “Darling where’s my …” is not an unfamiliar refrain. Except that recently I’m the one saying it. This has made my husband wonder if hell has frozen over. And he’s an atheist. So many changes in middle life. I’m lucky to be married to someone who will change with […]

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love in a tradition

February 15, 2011
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I was a smidge late for Valentines Day at my house. My family woke to the altared space of peanut M&M decor instead of our usual treasure hunt for hearts. That’s OK. It made for a nice moment when everyone gathered after school and I had finally finished that last fabric heart.           The treasure […]

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tender mercies heal a barren landscape

August 4, 2010
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        Today my altared space is the character Rosa Lee (played by Tess Harper) from the film Tender Mercies. I’m taken with her solid jacket and sturdy boots. She makes things plain and tells the truth even if the truth feels as nebulous as trying to get sure footing standing on a cloud. “I don’t know,” she […]

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getting engaged, years after getting married

July 12, 2010
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       Today my altared space is my favorite thing: this ring. I got it more than a decade after I was married, when my husband finally proposed to me.        There was no one at our wedding. In fact, I didn’t want a wedding at all. My family tree is peppered with divorce and, being […]

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light bends

March 15, 2010
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       This morning I wanted to get the heating pad out of my bedroom because my back was sore from lifting bricks yesterday. My husband was still asleep and I didn’t want to wake him by turning on a light.        Fortunately light bends around corners, softening as it does so. By turning on the […]

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love that hurts

March 4, 2010
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       I am planting an altared space this year and I’d love to have your help. I have a brown thumb, so I need lots of support. In this garden, along with planting the traditional things that grow, I’m collecting treasures that tell stories. I’d love to have a symbol of your altared space in […]

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what do you do to celebrate togetherness?

February 10, 2010
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       Valentines Day is a time to remind people we love them. How do you remind the people you love that they are your favorite faces to spy in the crowd?          I know a mother who has lived with her son for the past 16 years. It’s just the two of them. Every […]

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parachuting into a new future

February 4, 2010
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       To go from a 6 figure salary and a plush home in an elegant Denver suburb to sleeping on the floor of your in-laws garage in an out of the way town that wouldn’t support a Costco is not the transition every wife dreams of making. But Crystal Morris not only tolerated her husband’s […]

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love and fear walk hand in hand

February 3, 2010
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       I know that the things I love the most are also the things that tend to cause me the most fear. I get worked up about where the peanut butter goes in the fridge because I’ve attached meaning to the placement of that particular item.        Sometimes I fear things because I’ve been told […]

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