parenting

confessions from a parent who throws things

November 16, 2015
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“There’s jelly on my toast!” screams my neighbor’s daughter. “I thought you liked jelly,” says dad, and it’s true, she did like jelly, with a particular preference for raspberry. “I hate jelly!” the toast is now airborne. “I forgot to tell him to put peanut butter on the toast,” says my friend to her daughter […]

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you are not invisible, i see you

June 22, 2015
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I know how it is when you’re doing more than you feel capable of: stretched beyond your capacity. Just after my son was born, my stepfather landed in the hospital and it didn’t look good. I moved my 3 year old daughter, my new born baby, and my graduate-student-husband in with my mother because she […]

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dropped money, kale salad for hundreds, and a mother’s happiness

May 31, 2015
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Cleaning up what I thought was trash on our lawn, my husband found a check for $182. “I think that check fell out of my purse as I was headed to the bank,” I told him. The last time my life was this full of stress I lost the title to our car. That was […]

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my family is where I belong

March 4, 2014
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I found where I belong by simply writing about my family for the past 4 weeks. This is a small miracle to me. Such an easy cure, such an elusive problem. Several decades ago I went to hear Tony Robbins speak and he described 4 categories of people. I don’t remember the names of the […]

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how to love more and love better: lessons from my dog

February 25, 2014
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My dog, Ode Yedder, is sitting beside me, where I frequently can find her. She follows me down the hallway when I’m going to fetch the laundry to take it to the other side of the house. Is it because she wonders if I’m getting ready for a walk? Or does she simply long for […]

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this day I daily wed

February 18, 2014
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I took off my wedding ring this week. I put it in the precious box my daughter made for me. Then I began to listen carefully for the voice of my own longing. I realized I was missing that voice when I felt envious of my best friend’s tires. We went to Steamboat together and, […]

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8 hours of pause to parent for 8 seconds? worth it.

February 11, 2014
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Because my son plays high school basketball, I’ve gotten to see a good portion of Western Colorado. I spend my weekends traveling around the state to watch his games. I sometimes drive 2 or 3 hours each direction to sit for 1 or 2 hours and cheer. This is parenting. Lots of traveling to capture […]

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what church and show tunes show me about my daughter

February 5, 2014
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I’m listening to a mix CD my daughter made me as I drive through snowy mountains. The occasional barn makes its appearance, but mostly it is vast open space. White, rolling silence. I live in the Rockies and stones make themselves known underneath all the white. They peek out their faces to smile at the […]

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freeing lobsters and baby jesus = contagious love

December 24, 2012
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What do lobsters have to do with the birth of baby Jesus? It’s a fair question. The manger has always been a story of hope and redemption. Humble God, decides not just to become human, but also to arrive to an unwed mother and is first laid in an animal’s feed trough. Not exactly a […]

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clients bring clarity to my life…huge gratitude

November 29, 2012
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Sexual freedom, a deep appreciation for our military, and a renewed interest in my children: these are just some of the gifts my clients have given me. As I count my blessings, my clients top the list, for they bring depth and dimension to my life. The relationship between coach and client is holy because […]

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melody, harmony and gratitude for musical brothers

November 18, 2012
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  My brother, Steve Mullen, made music Rockstar Fabulous and approachable at the same time. He’s been interested in music as long as he’s been interested in baseball, which is to say all his life, and with equal, giddy fascination. All my memories with him are tied up with music. 9 years my senior, I […]

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