the nester

want more AND have both

October 31, 2012
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For years I vacillated between either and or. I ate Oreos until my sweet tooth fell out then I tossed a bunch of fruit and veggies in the blender and pressed liquify until everything in life was smooth. That’s about the time I realized a cookie would taste delightful. This teeter-totter lifestyle was crazy-making. Either/ […]

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how to celebrate clearing clutter…soulfully

October 30, 2012
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My month of Soulful Cleansing is almost over. There was a time in my life that I would take this time to think about all that I haven’t done. I’m no longer that person. I am now the person who collects reasons I’m wonderful in envelopes. As we’ve talked about previously, there are 2 kinds […]

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why getting outside helps clear clutter

October 29, 2012
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Every foul mood and every headache I’ve ever had has been lessened when I go outside. That is twice as true in the autumn. Blue sky, crisp air and golden colors combine to soften what is hard inside my skin. Clutter is always a sign of neglect in one form or another. In its simplest […]

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how to keep your pantry stocked, not overflowing

October 28, 2012
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I used to buy the sales. That’s how I acquired 17 bottles of my favorite Annie’s Shitake Mushroom salad dressing. I haven’t put this on a salad in months. I’ve discovered that there is a fine line between what is abundance and too much. When I went to visit my sister-in-law, she had fresh flowers […]

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how and when to let go of sentimental treasures

October 27, 2012
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Second place can be better than first. A tiny ribbon can be preferable to a giant trophy. It takes time to know what is meaningful in our life stories. There is a great deal of paraphernalia that comes with raising children. A multitude of worksheets come home from kindergarten, art pieces populate elementary school and […]

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embrace your idiosyncrasy

October 27, 2012
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I love systems. Can’t help it. My brain loves puzzles, and containers and sorting. But sometimes I get lost and what I really need is a streamlined approach. Let’s face it: lots of systems are difficult to maintain. A good system requires tending to work well. I’m not as big a fan of tending as […]

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laundry: once a day, or once a week?

October 25, 2012
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How often do you do laundry? Do you like to get things done in one big chunk or are you a little bit every day sort of person? I’ve always had a laundry day where I pair a sedentary task, like writing or paying bills with running 6 loads of laundry through the washing machine. […]

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3 am kindness, control and oil changes

October 24, 2012
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I get tired. Running a household is relentless. There are dishes EVERY day. Dirty clothes don’t take a day off. In addition to these inexorable piles there is a long list of things on top of which I am expected to stay. And I don’t. This causes me to wake at 3 in the morning […]

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how to reduce clutter 15 minutes at a time

October 23, 2012
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I never have enough time. That’s why I clean my home in 15 minute bursts. We call it the 15-minute-spiff. We take 2 minutes to assign jobs, then spend 15 minutes totally ON-TASK. Even little people can usually focus for 15 minutes. (Maybe in your home, if you have really little ones, you’ll employ a […]

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why losing it today will help you tomorrow

October 23, 2012
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I’ve been doing a lot. Too much, really. So I burst open, not unlike this milkweed plant. I fell apart today. I didn’t do the dishes. The laundry got neglected. Nothing went according to the plan. I was too tired to offer up any smiley faces. This is to be expected. The milkweed does this […]

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why cleaning toilets can soothe my soul

October 21, 2012
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I used to HATE tending to my house much the way some people hate exercise. Now I covet time to do the small, repetitive jobs that nourish my home because I feel fed in my soul. This was a long time coming. I am certain it is largely because I made a conscious decision to […]

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