I help people find meaning in the seemingly insignificant things they touch every day. This is my dorky gift to the world. And I’m good at it.

I learned this skill getting elbowed out of church. Not just one church but many.

I asked too many questions. Questions like, “But if God is so loving, why are so many people afraid?” and I invited the wrong people inside to have donuts with me during coffee hour. I figured the aromatic homeless guys were hungry and I believed my pastor who said we should emulate Jesus. I knew I couldn’t turn 7 loaves into enough to feed thousands but I could stir a packet of cocoa.

This didn’t go over well in the church of my youth where a woman in the pew behind me let me know one Sunday how many times I chewed my gum in the span of 60 seconds: 73. I don’t waste my large chompers.

It took me awhile to get the message because I love church. I love the singing. I love communion, I love the kiss of peace. But let’s face it: there’s an inside circle and an outside circle. People are standing in line for a ticket to heaven. Somebody’s got to go to hell if others are passing through the pearly gates. Right?

And that’s where I just couldn’t swallow it any more. I don’t believe in hell.

So that’s when I left. And it was sad. Really, really sad. Because all my friends told me I didn’t belong. They told me in about 80,000 ways. And the whole reason I left was because it didn’t seem to ring true that Love would ever leave someone on the OUTside of belonging.

Then something great happened.

Because all those years spent in church (and wandering from church to temple to ashram afterward) taught me to see altars everywhere I went.

I woke up to it one day when my family was staying at a hotel and I wanted to linger just a bit more at breakfast while they went back to the room. There was an older woman who was fumbling with her change purse near me and I asked if she needed any assistance. Suddenly she was crying and telling me about how this was the first time she’d spent money on her own. She was 76! Her husband had died last month. He’d paid the bills their entire marriage.

The struggle with the coin purse wasn’t about the money. It was about dealing with the idea that she was now facing independence for the first time in her life and she was terrified. We talked for awhile.

When I got back to the hotel room, I asked for a pardon from my family and explained about the woman with the coin purse. “Yeah, yeah,” said my children, “We’re used to strangers crying when they meet you.”

I laughed.

And suddenly I felt like I didn’t have to be quite so lonely for church anymore. Church had found me. I see altars in the grocery store when the gentleman in front of me pulls out a favored pen and we talk for 15 minutes in the parking lot about the business he’s selling tomorrow because the big box store has drowned his sales.

I see altars in people’s yarn, photography, napkins and school supplies. I am the queen of finding meaning in the insignificant.

Aren’t we all looking for a way to belong? Belong most of all to our own life? Let me help you find the altars in your life and the meaning they offer you.


“Rebecca Mullen is a powerful life coach that has inspired my true self to come out of hiding.”
-Betsy S. Washington DC
“Rebecca creates a sacred space for her clients. With her, a person can exhale. With her, a person feels totally okay with feeling whatever they’re feeling, with being whoever they really are. She is gentle, and she is honest, a rare and wonderful combination that helps her clients to get unstuck and move forward!”
– Allison, solopreneur and mom of two.
“I picked you because you seemed to have so many doubts.”– one of my clients said this to me recently and I realized I’d found my sweet spot.“Thank you for helping me to focus my career goals, to shape the way I send out bids and job proposals, and to gain better control of my finances. I am already presenting myself more confidently, and you have given me a way to talk to clients about money that helps them better understand the value of what I have to offer. Thank you, thank you!”
-Steve / WalkWest Productions, LLC

“Rebecca Mullen is a gifted coach who I would recommend without reservation. Rebecca has coached me on a number of occasions in a variety of areas: writing, goal-setting, and every-day life issues. She has a wonderful listening talent and is able to pick up on subtle communication cues, asking the probing questions that help me get to the root of an issue. Rebecca’s intuition and insights have helped me move past whatever obstacles are blocking me, enabling me to move forward with clarity.”
–Yvette, Superior Colorado
“Rebecca, I think you are an amazing coach. You’re extremely intuitive. Thank you for helping me uncover buried dreams today.”
-Ami, New York City
“I have felt liberated for months, after Rebecca helped me work through the thought that ‘I should be moving along faster in my career’. Once I was able to stop putting that pressure on myself and really believe my slower, but intentional pace was right for me…magic started to happen and my career has taken off much faster than I anticipated.”
-Betsy Swanson Hollinger
Ventura, California
“I’ve had the pleasure of both being coached by Rebecca and witnessing her gracefully and masterfully lead groups with her deep insight, playful sense of humor and her open heart.”
-Kate
Short Hills, New Jersey
“Rebecca has been of immense help to me in sorting through issues both of family history and of sexual identity. She leads with an absolute openness to personal discovery without judgment. It has allowed me to verbalize deeply conflicted feelings about my own sexual orientation as well as core issues of sexual identity. It is primarily her enjoyment of the undiscovered and the differences that we all express in our hidden corners that has encouraged me to keep digging. Thank you, Rebecca!”
-anonymous
“Despite a successful career as a technical writer/e-learning consultant and the publishing of my first novel, I felt there was something missing—PURPOSE. I have always felt called to help others discover their giftedness, and I realized I wanted to make this the focus of the second half of my life. I had no sooner set out to explore my options when Rebecca appeared like an angel on my journey, offering her services as a life coach. As an introspective person who has studied numerous philosophies, I was a bit skeptical that I would get anything new out of our sessions. I was wrong. Her insight that one of my greatest strengths could also be a liability led to exercises to increase my awareness and strengthen undeveloped parts of my intuition. Rebecca embodies a powerful yet gentle energy that suggests and guides, allowing you to come into self-awareness, rather than pushing you along some pre-determined path. If you are interested in taking life to the next level, I highly recommend Rebecca as a coach. “-
-Margaret Reyes Dempsey, Author of The Benefactor

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