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Overcome Fear: Because Fear Will Leave you Lonely

Fear steals our desire. Have you ever wanted to bust out singing to your sweetheart, but knew you’d be embarrassed? What happened when you felt the voice welling up inside you about to spill out where your sweetheart could hear it? Did a voice inside your head start to holler:…

Rebecca S MullenApril 22, 2021

Marriage Six Steps to Better Communication

Get Clear: Because a Lack of Clarity Will Cause Conflict in Your Marriage

When it comes to your marriage, clarity is especially important because the lack of clarity causes so many fights. What do you want? It’s a simple question, but let’s face it: we all regularly want mutually exclusive things. You want to stay up late relaxing with a movie and get…

Rebecca S MullenApril 22, 2021

Marriage Six Steps to Better Communication

Ask Cleanly: If You Want to Intensify Intimacy in Your Marriage Ask with Clarity

It’s important that we learn to ask cleanly because it brings respect and kindness to our marriage. Whether you need help with the papers that pile up on the kitchen counter, or you want to try a new move in bed, how do you ask clearly? You want to be…

Rebecca S MullenApril 22, 2021

Marriage Six Steps to Better Communication

Beware Conditions: Because Conditions Will Suck the Life Out of Your Marriage

It’s risky to accept conditions on love. Have you ever felt like your sweetheart will love you if you’re thin? Or if you’re rich? Or if you say yes instead of no? Conditions on love try to slip in without being noticed. Unconditional love is the goal of your marriage,…

Rebecca S MullenApril 22, 2021

Marriage Six Steps to Better Communication

Affirm Lovingly: You’ve Said Yes. Your Spouse Hears No. What Happened?

You’ve been invited to dinner with some friends. You ask your sweetheart if they want to go. “OK. But I really wanted to stay home and watch a movie,” is the reply. “Why don’t you want to go?” you ask. “I said I would go,” your sweetheart says in that…

Rebecca S MullenApril 22, 2021

Marriage Six Steps to Better Communication

Build Boundaries: Why a Strong Boundary Will Deepen Your Love

Think of a situation where the boundary in your marriage is clear. One of my clients told me she learned to put her shoes away because if she left them in the middle of the room, her husband hid them. When the consequences of your actions are clear, you feel…

Rebecca S MullenApril 21, 2021