What Altars are Altering You?

I’ve created a way for you feel like I’m in the room with you, coaching you. As you look at the questions below, notice what makes you curious. If a questions intrigues you, mouse over it to read more. Then download the resource if you’d like my help.

An altar is a place where your devotion is displayed. It’s a way to make an abstract idea – like a marriage vow, a religious belief or a desire to be patient – more concrete. You engage with a bunch of daily things, and those details absorb your time, attention and sometimes even your money. I call these moments and details altared spaces. Like it or not, today’s altared spaces are creating who you will be tomorrow.

You can alter your patterns and habits so that your daily altared spaces reflect the truest version of you. Want help? These self study resources are for you.

Altar Yourself

You’d put on your oxygen mask first if you knew where it was!

“What do you truly want?” My sister asked when I showed up crying. Does the question make you as nervous as it made me? This will help you research what you like and don’t like so that when someone asks, “What do you want?” you won’t turn into a big ball of tears.

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Struggling to feel joy?

I was brought up in a world where sitting around was a cardinal sin, how about you? If I was resting, I wasn’t accomplishing, and without accomplishment, who was I? Joy is an engine for our ambition. This will help you explore what brings you joy.

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Do you have a difficult person in your life?

Or maybe you are just looking to treat everyone (including yourself) with a bit more gentleness. Try this Loving Kindness meditation.

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Altar Your Relationship

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Altar Your Parenting

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Is it agony trying to get your kid to do chores?

When it comes to chores do your kids stall, complain and forget? Read about the summer my son and I tangled about mowing the lawn and let me give you some hope.

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Struggling with sibling rivalry?

Me too. It’s exhausting. My daughter is a vegetarian and my son is a hunter. Our dinner table was a negotiation. Then my children grew to value each other and never wanted to be apart. Hear the story of that transformation in my TEDx Talk.

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Do you worry about your kids ruining your stuff?

Kids are hard on things. We don’t want things to break so we put the nice dishes in the high cupboard. What is it costing you when your most beautiful treasures are not available to share with your children?

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Want to be closer to your kids when they are adults?

I say, “Read to them when they are tiny and don’t stop sharing stories.” Teachers tell us to read to our children to promote literacy, I say read to promote intimacy. I feel so passionate about it, I wrote a book. It’s available during quarantine for free.

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Altar Your Grief

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What do you do with all the stuff after your loved one is gone?

Maybe the person you love has died, or just moved out or moved on. But their stuff is in your home. How do you deal with that stuff to honor your relationship, while at the same time making room for your life going forward?

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Are you sitting next to your loved one who is dying?

You’re scared. You don’t know what you’re supposed to do. You want to comfort your loved one but you’re unsure how to do that when you feel so lost yourself.

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Are you struggling to process grief?

You cry. You sleep. You feel lost and alone. The aching feeling inside you is unbearable. Don’t let grief get stuck in your body. Use this tool of the grown up sandbox to help you sift through the layers of your sadness.

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